Monday, June 20, 2011

The fight continues and we will WIN.

5 years of data 

Mommy and me riding out the storm














 It's been a whirlwind of a month in my families fight with rare disease. Dr Saal (Tommy's Genetics Dr and researcher from Cincinnati Children's) could only see me the week before school gets out. So I had to leave for three days to get the following done: His yearly evaluation by genetics, the sleep study,  feeding team appointment, along with xray's,  and blood work. ONE week before school got out.  I am a mom of 6th grader, 4th grader, and our sweet Tommy who has Russell Silver Syndrome MAT UPD7.   All three kids have needs and the timing was not so great. It's a super pressed time of the year for our family, but it had to get done, so off I went.  But in the going I got jazzed up again with CLARITY of understanding the complexity of handling his care and advocacy.  PASSION to not take no for an answer and not accept the delays.

I got to fly de plane
My BFF George always does it first











* The sleep study showed no hick-up.  We hear him stop breathing at night, gasping for breath.  Another mom and fighter for rare disease- with loads of experience has heard him and is sure he needs oxygen. We'll guess what during the sleep study,  he is fed oxygen thru his nose and he does not hick up. DUURRRR. Jacksonville just give my kid a machine. This is our next battle.... I am taking on this week. I may get my friend who's gloves are bigger then my experience to help me out. SOMETIMES we need each other.
* His height had less then 1 inch of growth in the last year.  Go figure...  His GHT has only been injected a month now.  No surprises here. His weight is one big concern also. Only 1 pound in a year. Hopefully-prayerfully, The combination of GHT and aggressive family support at making him eat will change this. Oh and the threat of a mic button if he will not eat.
* Our visit with the feeding team, left my head spinning. MAKE him eat. I had just gotten tired of the fight, and stopped pushing. The great team there jazzed me to come back and win.
* The blood test revealed we need to start monitoring his blood sugars. He fatigues easily and is cranky also. Waiting for the monitor to test blood sugars. This will come any day. He also is dropping ketones regularly. All new levels of managing and monitoring. Lastly, he has cardinal signs of ADHD. This explains the rough morning's for the last six months.
* This week we have a MRI of spine to see how serious the damage to his neck is from the years of trying to hold up that head with such a small body. I am really believing that there is no surgery necessary. Thankfully that rocking local anesthesia. Dr. with RSS experience will be with my boy again cautiously putting him out for the MRI.


Not liking these wires mommy
Let me show you how- says Tommy











Rare disease is ongoing. Initially we had the mis-diagnosis and the injustice of went with this. Had it been handled the right way I would not have had 39 appointments since January. Two of them being out of city. It's exhausting to see how SOME would give up in one way or another. Become laden with grief or loss. I probably have moments of those but they are VERY temporary. Usually opening up his word or getting someone who gets it to pray with me pulls me out quickly from staying somewhere I don't need to be.
YES, I get tired from this race some days, but then a day will surprise me and I will find "my fight" again and get back in the game. It's true that most the time Tommy's rare disease is treatable. My hope and prayer is that the mistakes that occurred will be "restored" back quickly to my son. That the loss of time for him, myself and my family will be redeemed. He is a delight, amazing, captivating in some ways. But what you don't see in his precious self is the time, effort, family dynamic that are evolving daily. Beth over heard me cancelling the trip to Chicago due to financial set- backs, to be with the other Magic families. Convention is a four day gathering of RSS families go to get information and support for the kids and meet others on the journey. She offered to give us her money she was earning house sitting to help us get there mid July. In tears she asked " When will it get easier for us Mommy" Yes- rare disease effects the whole family, emotionally, financially, and physically. We are grateful for having God at the center of our storm when it is windy. always reminded that yes, he calms the storm and settles the waves and helps us to win the daily battles.

People committed to helping us win.

NEW RSS friends took us to ZOO

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Life is too short...


Life is too short....  To leave regrets, things left undone, to not live freely in the day that is right in front of us. Many days we find not enough hours in the day, often  we leave unfinished business for the next day. The details, and tasks of the day swallow us up and keep us in river flowing. This past week was VBS at our church. Every year it is a river with a strong current's of fast furious nature, waterfalls with free falls. This year we had 170 kids, 78 volunteers, 170 parents dropping off kids. ACTIVITY and MOTION in it's finest. Music almost non stop in your ears for 3+ hours for five days. It's super fast paced, busy, and I get to spend the week coordinating and playing firefighter. (Taking care of problems and solving the issues that come up) It has been my privilege and honor to have been director for my husband for nine years. This us one VERY busy week that leaves me thinking about many as I ponder life and families.


I have loved certain aspects of this role. Leading the volunteer team, that we have watched grow and develop over the years is one of the things I cherish. I have watched mom's who step up and into places that were not always their gifting, because it was the right thing to do. In the doing of that I have watched them grow in who they are in him. I love seeing people using their gifts and abilities. It's amazing to see the teamwork and flexibility with so many different personalities. There are also the many families who sacrifice many hours to serve and make it happen. This year I watched families really tight already make huge sacrifices financially, (gas monies) families w/4+ kids arrive at 7:30 to serve, deacons who just did whatever was needed, station leaders who stepped in to fill needs, (that were not easy or natural fits). The list could go on and on.  All to teach Pre-K - 5th grade that YES they can connect with God. This week is about teamwork(working together) and kids. What KIDS? The blind girl, the one's who's dad is in prison, who's parents are getting a divorce, the one who has instability at home, the one who has no friends, the one who lost a loved one, the shy one's.

Days go by and things take our attention and time that are often of great value or sometimes  meaningless. Last week I saw many embrace the daily life to make a difference in each other, kids, and families. This was of great value!  New friendships, new understandings, new eyes to see and ears to hear what he is saying and doing. Fresh perspectives and openness to see afresh the work happening around us. It was great work for an amazing cause for bringing others to and in him. Life is too short and the work around us is deep and wide. So embrace today, look around you at the many living loud and faithfully to proclaim a message.  Life is too short~ Embrace the day- be awake to the POSITIVE work around you.  All around us there is something we can be apart of. Embrace, live free, healed and ready to proclaim what he is doing in you. Cause it's good~